I’m sorry if sometimes I sound like a record that has got stuck but I guess I am a bit like that . But i still read what people say about their grief . I still feel a great bond with them and I am in awe and admiration about how they write so articulately , whereas I am so clumsy .
Keanu Reeves has had some terrible stuff happen in his life .His child was stillborn ,then the mother of his child died in a car crash. He gave an interview with Parade magazine ,and this is what he said….
“Grief changes shape, but it never ends,” “People have a misconception that you can deal with it and say, ‘It’s gone, and I’m better.’ They’re wrong.
“When the people you love are gone, you’re alone “I miss being a part of their lives and them being part of mine. I wonder what the present would be like if they were here – what we might have done together. I miss all the great things that will never be.
“Damn it! It’s not fair! It’s absurd.
“All you can do is hope that grief will be transformed and, instead of feeling pain and confusion you will be together again in memory, that there will be solace and pleasure there, not just loss.”
He added however “I don’t want to flee from life, I know the beauty of it.”
Wise words