Rachel in Waitrose

I rarely
write or comment on the blog I just leave that to Rach as she is brilliant at
it. But I thought I’d surprise her and share this with you: The BBC Radio 4 journalist Fi Glover writes a
column each week in the Waitrose Weekend newspaper. Well this week’s column is
on Rachel

Well here is
the full column:

Rachel is
one of the loveliest people I have met in a long time. I’m sitting opposite her
in our new Listening Project booth, which is parked up at a National Trust
property in the heart of east London. It’s a sleek modern caravan of chat which
looks incongruous against the Tudor façade of Sutton House.

Rachel and I
are discussing friendship- in particular hers and Mandy’s. They met years ago.
Both are teachers who share a love of walking, keeping diaries and cheating a
bit in half-marathons. They join more than 1,300 people who have had chats for
the Listening Project-a simple premise where the BBC is creating a sound
archive of our times at the British Library simply by recording you chatting. It’s

I feel I
know a lot about Rachel already through the conversation she and Mandy had, and
it’s one of my favourites so far. What I love about it is the warmth. There is
a true friendship of laughs and camaraderie but also of something far more
profound- a proper sense of support. If you have just one friend like either
Rachel or Mandy, life will be less of a struggle. And Rachel’s certainly had
its struggles because in 2008 her 19 year old daughter Rosie died, very
suddenly of septicaemia. Mandy’s friendship has been especially important
because, as Rachel says, Mandy lets her just be quiet and still sometimes. You’d
need to be after a loss like that.

Rachel has
come along to the booth to talk about what she enjoyed about being part of the
Project. As she so rightly says, everyone has a story to tell. The experience
of others informs all our lives, and often there’ll be just a little something
in one of our conversations you feel you can bung in the bank of life. When I
asked Rachel if she’d recommend the Project she didn’t miss a beat in saying
yes. She said that at Rosie’s funeral she had had trouble with the bit where
you try to say everything happens for a reason- because what possible reason
can there be for losing one so loved? I can’t think of one, but I know this: Rosie’s
death created a huge loss for those who knew her. Hearing Rachel’s wisdom and
strength provides an unexpected comfort for anyone who listens. I’m not saying
the latter would ever compensate for the former-I’m with Rachel on the often
futile search for positivity in every event-but this is a silver of light in
the gloom.

It was such
a pleasure to meet you, Rachel, and this column is for you because I know you
like picking up a copy of Weekend. Ha-ha! You’re in it now! I like to imagine, that
right at this moment you’re phoning Mandy to say,”Ooooh, you’ll never guess
what….?” Now go and read some fine writing by Balding and Agnew –and don’t
forget to do Pippa’s exercises!

FI Glover is so right

surprises in one day, this article and me writing on the blog!

Rach I’m so proud of you and I know
Rosie is as well

We love you
Rosie and we miss you more than ever



Running for Rosie

Running for Rosie British 10k 11th July 2010

A massive thank you to everyone that ran, walked, supported and helped out in yesterday’s Run for Rosie. It was very special day and I’m sure it made Rosie smile.

Another massive thank you that you for all of you that have raised and donated money for Rosie’s fund with ACE Africa. Since the fund started 70 individial Just Giving Pages have been set up and yesterday the total smashed £40,000!!!!!!!

That means a lot to the Dwyers but even more to the children of the Southend Academy in Northern Kenya.

To maintain the support for ACE, in October Jacob and I are taking part in the Cyle Kenya Challenge. So despite the fact you have already been very generous, please help to keep Rosie’s memory alive and support the children of the The Southend Academy by donating on www.justgiving.com/Jacob-John-Cycle-for-Rosie

Thank you


I’m on the mend

I’m on the mend

At the moment though, I have a left thigh that matches Roberto Carlos (Brazilian footballer)

I must be a bit more careful! It all happened while attempting to turn right off the Uxbridge Road .I approached the maneuver a little too fast, with my right arm signaling I tried to brake with the left, turning at the same time, all far too ambitious for someone with my cycling skills.

With Rach as my nurse I’m sure I’ll be back on the bike in no time. She’s just headed off to see her mum, giving me supplies of Ibuprofen and Paracetamol. Her parting words were “you can overdose on Paracetamol.” Was that a caution or instruction??

Take Care ( I will in future)


Me and Chaz!!

It has been 3 days of some very mixed emotions.

We are so pleased to have held the exhibition for Rosie as we are so incredibly proud of her and it was good way for us to express our love. For everyone that was able to attend ( and there were hundreds) Thank You for making it such a special occasion. I felt really sad locking up the Triangle for the last time. In a way it was like saying good bye to Rosie again.

We were very pleased that Charles Saatchi attended the exhibition yesterday, particularly as he rarely attends functions. Even more remarkably he was suffering from the flu and had got out of his sick bed and was heading back there after seeing the exhibition. He was genuinely very impressed with the quality of all works and very moved by the way so many people had expressed and shared their feelings for Rosie. He particularly liked the Charity Shop piece by Florence (praise indeed) and he said the two large portraits were a great idea and looked superb. Of course I told him that Rachel would be disappointed not to have met him , so he has invited us to his office at his gallery.

Take care